Boundaries Statements

Boundary statements can come in several forms, depending on the circumstance, nature of the relationship and previous interactions

Here are some examples of ways to communicate boundaries, while aiming for connection rather than alienation.

Validate their feelings

Boundaries don’t always require an explanation, but with someone with whom you have a safe, close relationship it can help that person better understand where you’re coming from

I understand you would like to spend some time together. I would really like that too, but this week I am not available, can we arrange something for next week?

Express Gratitude

Showing gratitude helps others feel appreciated, without having to commit yourself

Thank you for your concern, I’ll take it from here

This communicates gratitude, and also indicates clearly that you are not open to further input or advice

Privacy matters

Some boundaries involve protecting yourself or someone else's personal information

That is too personal

I don’t share those kinds of details

please do not ask me any more questions about my finances/relationship/health issues ect

Show empathy

Emotional boundaries can be some of the most difficult to enforce, particularly within close relationships. You can empathize with someone without taking on their problems as your own or attempting to fix them.

I can really see what a difficult experience this has been for you. I don’t have any advice but I am here to listen and support you

Say nothing

You can set parameters for certain types of interactions or communications without explaining them, particularly if you’re worried the other person may argue with you, or has a history of disrespecting your boundaries.

You can decide to avoid discussing a certain topic (like politics) with a particular person

Decide that you will no longer be tolerating abuse, yelling, name calling ect.

Example simple boundary statements

• I’m not comfortable with this

• Please don’t do that

• Not at this time

• I can’t do that for you

• This doesn’t work for me

• This is not acceptable

• I am not going to be discussing that with you

• That is private/personal

• No

There will be more discussion regarding boundaries in the next weeks/months, but it's time to switch gears for a few posts.

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K